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It’s Like a Kiss… You Can’t Do It Alone

John Cheever, the prolific American writer, said, “I can’t write without a reader. It’s precisely like a kiss—you can’t do it alone.”   Whether you’re a writer, leader, manager, professional, or lover, when you are communicating with another person, it is vitally important to consider their point of view and what they might need from the conversation.   For example, …

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Courageous Conversations for Life

I bet you’ve heard the statement, “Leave your personal life at the door.” Wouldn’t it be nice if it was just that easy? I agree that a business environment requires whatever is going on for us personally to be manageable enough to allow us to conduct ourselves professionally with clients, patients, and our team—or we should stay home. But we …

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Panic or Prepare?

This is a guest post from our friend, Adrienne Twigg. Have you ever awakened in the middle of the night dreading a meeting, a decision that must be made, or a conversation that you anticipate will be difficult, challenging, or contentious? Absolutely, I would raise my hand and say, “guilty as charged.” Also, how many of us put that “event” …

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Love in the Workplace

Today is Valentine’s Day—one of my favorite days of the year! Who doesn’t enjoy a holiday set aside for one simple purpose:  to celebrate love. And although I (quite by accident) scheduled my annual girl’s trip right over the top of Valentine’s Day this year, I count myself lucky beyond measure to have so much love to celebrate in my …

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Coaching versus Discipline

As business owners and managers, there is no denying we currently find ourselves in a serious employee shortage. For those employees who remain on our team, many are feeling more stressed and stretched than ever. I hear terms such as overworked, unappreciated, and unsupported… especially if the team has one or more open positions or a heavy balance of new …

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When Emotions Highjack Our Logic

Disclaimer:  My husband is a saint. While I did ask Tom’s permission to recount the following story to all of you… if you ever meet him, please thank him for his willingness to submit himself frequently to my weekly messages and for contributing greatly to our continued mutual and communal learning. Some weeks, it just has to be hard to …

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Non-Negotiables

Many of you probably already know that I’m a country girl at heart. Hence, I live in a beautiful home just off the main highway on a dirt road which makes owning a black vehicle of any kind completely out of the question.   When we shopped recently for my first new car in 11 years, I had one “non-negotiable.” …

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The Destination of a Conversation

One of my favorite ways to spend a Sunday is to jump in the car with Tom and head out to explore an area without any particular destination in mind. I love stumbling upon quaint little towns with their specialty shops, unique restaurants, hidden history, and interesting conversations with proprietors or patrons. I instantly relax into the freedom of wandering …

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20 Seconds of Insane Courage

In 2011, I was thoroughly enjoying a new and growing relationship with my now-husband, Tom. My attention was so focused on this new love in my life that I completely missed some everyday things … like most of the movies, TV series, and news events of 2011.  Looking back, that experience taught me some important lessons about the value of …

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Two More Important Meetings

Last week, I outlined a small business/practice meeting structure that included five different types of meetings to support your growth and the realization of your long-term vision. But, I forgot to mention two others that are equally important: Growth Conferences and Courageous Conversations. Both of these meetings are focused on developing your people, but they have two big distinctions. Courageous …