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It’s Like a Kiss… You Can’t Do It Alone

John Cheever, the prolific American writer, said, “I can’t write without a reader. It’s precisely like a kiss—you can’t do it alone.”   Whether you’re a writer, leader, manager, professional, or lover, when you are communicating with another person, it is vitally important to consider their point of view and what they might need from the conversation.   For example, …

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Panic or Prepare?

This is a guest post from our friend, Adrienne Twigg. Have you ever awakened in the middle of the night dreading a meeting, a decision that must be made, or a conversation that you anticipate will be difficult, challenging, or contentious? Absolutely, I would raise my hand and say, “guilty as charged.” Also, how many of us put that “event” …

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When Emotions Highjack Our Logic

Disclaimer:  My husband is a saint. While I did ask Tom’s permission to recount the following story to all of you… if you ever meet him, please thank him for his willingness to submit himself frequently to my weekly messages and for contributing greatly to our continued mutual and communal learning. Some weeks, it just has to be hard to …

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Non-Negotiables

Many of you probably already know that I’m a country girl at heart. Hence, I live in a beautiful home just off the main highway on a dirt road which makes owning a black vehicle of any kind completely out of the question.   When we shopped recently for my first new car in 11 years, I had one “non-negotiable.” …

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The Destination of a Conversation

One of my favorite ways to spend a Sunday is to jump in the car with Tom and head out to explore an area without any particular destination in mind. I love stumbling upon quaint little towns with their specialty shops, unique restaurants, hidden history, and interesting conversations with proprietors or patrons. I instantly relax into the freedom of wandering …

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Stop the Boredom – Part 2

In our last few MMS’s, we’ve discussed how to use an integrated meeting structure to support the realization of your company vision.  The structure we’ve suggested looks like this: Annual Calibration Retreat Quarterly Strategic Meetings Monthly Growth Meetings (for entire team) Weekly Leadership Check-Ins Daily Focus Meetings Individual Employee Growth Conferences Courageous Conversations (as needed) In this MMS, I’m going …

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Two More Important Meetings

Last week, I outlined a small business/practice meeting structure that included five different types of meetings to support your growth and the realization of your long-term vision. But, I forgot to mention two others that are equally important: Growth Conferences and Courageous Conversations. Both of these meetings are focused on developing your people, but they have two big distinctions. Courageous …

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Stop the Boredom!

Sick of team meetings that are boring at best, contentious at worst?  Or, do you discuss a lot of subjects as a team without anything ever actually changing? Maybe you frequently experience a lack of engagement or participation? Too many meetings? Not enough? What’s the answer? At LionSpeak, we think meetings are an essential part of the communication strategy for …

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Congruency

If I ask Tom, “Is anything wrong?” and he smiles, connects with me, and says, “Nothing’s wrong,”… I generally believe him. However, if I ask him, “What’s wrong, honey?” and his response is a mumbled, “Nothing,” accompanied by a sour tone, crossed arms, and a frowning face… I’m likely not to believe him. We hardly ever believe someone when their …

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That is One Ugly Dog!

This was a thought I had recently, looking at someone’s dog. Thankfully, that highly critical thought did not make its way out of my mouth. You’ve probably had some similarly critical thoughts at work or at home. Are you stupid? What were you thinking? You’re not going to wear that are you? Were you not listening to what I just said? This doesn’t even make any sense! Can’t you just do …