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Me and El Tigre

Technically, it was a competitive race to the finish line, but for me the only competition was between myself and El Tigre. On May 7th, 2016, I rode in my first competitive cycling race called the Rosarito Ensenda in Baja, Mexico, about a 2-hour drive from my home. Heralded as one of the world’s largest cycling events, it began in …

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The Stretch Zone

LionSpeak is a communication coaching company specializing in coaching individuals, leaders, and teams, who wish to communicate with more clarity and inspiration to achieve remarkable results. In other words, we help people communicate better in a variety of circumstances. For example: An administrator wanting to convert more callers to appointments. A leader wishing to inspire their team to massive action. …

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The Drama Triangle vs. the Empowerment Triangle

You may have heard of the “Drama Triangle.” It was initially introduced by a psychiatrist named Stephen Karpman in the 1960’s as a “social model of human interaction” to demonstrate unproductive patterns of relating when conflicts arise. Each point of the inverted triangle represents one of three “faces of drama”:  The persecutor (constantly finding fault and placing blame), the victim …

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Partnering for Change

As a coach, one of my favorite questions in leadership, conflict, or offering help and guidance is, “Do you want to feel better (or have a different result)?” If the answer is no, then we’re likely done with our work together for the moment,  and at least we don’t have to waste time struggling or pretending. I’ve learned not to …

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The Story Challenge

I have a personal challenge for every lion, lioness, and cub out there in the Lion’s Den—all you beautiful subscribers to this weekly Monday Morning Stretch. And, I’m serious about this. It’s a real challenge. It’s called Your Best Story Challenge. Here’s the premise: Ever notice how some people seem to live an easier life? Their businesses prosper even during hard …

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Walking in a New Perspective

A couple weeks ago, Tom and I arrived at our small, rustic summer cabin on Echo Lakes, just south of Lake Tahoe.   Nestled in the majestic 60-foot white pine forest of the Northern Sierras, at 7500 feet elevation, the Pacific Crest Trail runs literally right behind the cabin. The ice-cold water of the small mountain lake called Echo Lake is …

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The Stories We Tell Ourselves

We’re making it all up. We really are. How we view our reality is just a story we are telling ourselves. It is our truth, for sure, but make no mistake that others would view or live our exact same experience and come to a different conclusion about it. The events are neutral, but it’s we who give them meaning …

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A Call for Love

I recently heard someone say that how people act demonstrates whether they are receiving love or putting out a call for love.   When I consider this in terms of behavior and communication, I think it just might be spot on. Think about the last time you experienced someone “acting out”— a teenager, a spouse, an audience member, a team member, …

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From the Top

“My job is to report it, not to fix it. That’s my manager’s job. That’s why she gets paid the big bucks!” This was the reply I received when I asked a client’s team member if she would be open to some coaching about how to solve a conflict with one of her co-workers.  Simultaneously, her manager had complained to …

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Words That Matter

Whether in a one-to-one conversation, video, email, text, social media post, or group presentation, what we say matters. Everything from body language and non-verbal communication to our word choice creates an image and perception in the minds of our intended listeners. As leaders, we want our message to land with strength, clarity, and persuasion. I’ve written several Stretches over the …