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The Slow, Deadly Boil

You’ve probably heard the old (slightly morbid) fable of how to cook a frog. If you throw it in a pot of boiling water, the frog will immediately jump out of the pot to save its life. But, place the frog in a pot of cool water, put the heat on low, and slowly increase the temperature, and the frog …

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It’s Like a Kiss… You Can’t Do It Alone

John Cheever, the prolific American writer, said, “I can’t write without a reader. It’s precisely like a kiss—you can’t do it alone.”   Whether you’re a writer, leader, manager, professional, or lover, when you are communicating with another person, it is vitally important to consider their point of view and what they might need from the conversation.   For example, …

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Stop Apologizing!

Recently, I enjoyed a week with some of my best friends—three couples who’ve been close friends for years, have much in common, and love just hanging out and spending time together.  One morning we reserved a pickleball court and challenged ourselves to 2 hours of non-stop friendly competition. With six people and only one court, we played to a score …

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Courageous Conversations for Life

I bet you’ve heard the statement, “Leave your personal life at the door.” Wouldn’t it be nice if it was just that easy? I agree that a business environment requires whatever is going on for us personally to be manageable enough to allow us to conduct ourselves professionally with clients, patients, and our team—or we should stay home. But we …

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Rebirth

My world has burned to the ground around me a couple of times in my life—the kind of burning that leaves you on your knees, unsure what day it is, or if it’s day or night. A gut-wrenching, life-altering kind of downward spiral that at first makes you feel physically sick, then numb, then devastated, and ultimately after you ache …

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Music Monday: An American Child

There are certain passages in our lives that create personal bonds so deep that the flow of time has no effect on their strength or impact on you. My high school experience was one of those passages. With only 38 kids in my graduating class, we were close. So close, in fact, that our teachers insisted we take a moment …

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Potlatch Giving

Tom and I recently had the fantastic privilege of visiting the incredible state of Alaska for two weeks. We began our trip in the southeast panhandle which included stops in Juneau, Skagway, and Ketchikan. Beyond all the magnificent wonders we experienced, we learned about the native indigenous people, a large portion of whom are called the Tlingit (pronounced “klinget”) people. …

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Don’t Kill the Butterfly

I once heard a parable about a man who saw a butterfly cocoon hanging from a branch and noticed that the chrysalis inside was struggling to emerge through a tiny hole. As he watched the struggle, the man felt sorry for the small butterfly and so, in a kind effort to help, he cut the hole a bit larger to …

Side gigs

I’m often asked by professionals, clinicians, and friends who attend my lectures how someone can become a speaker. In many ways, it’s really not that hard, and there is always room on the platform for anyone with a unique, interesting, helpful, and encouraging point-of-view. It does take some commitment and work to clarify your message, hone your speaking skills to …

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Keeping Our Ego in Check

I received some great advice early in my career as a speaker not to let my ego get ahead of me and make me feel more important than I really am or become overly impressed with myself.  The speaking stage can be seductive in many ways. It’s a position of authority and leadership.  People applaud you and seek out your …