One of my favorite sayings when a wonderful little happy-stance happens for me is, “Life is always working out for me.” I often whisper it to Tom, accompanied by a little wink, and use it as “one more piece of proof” when the perfect spot opens up in a crowded parking lot or my flight is delayed on the very day I’m running late to the airport. But, I also use the phrase a lot when I experience a hard circumstance like a losing a speaking engagement to another speaker or an event that gets rescheduled at the last minute. I find that by reminding myself in good and bad times that “life is always working out for me,” I’ve grown to expect more good than bad. And, even the bad will ultimately reveal a silver lining.
Some of my best ideas have come from “life always working out for me.” Once in a presentation on Courageous Conversations for a small group practice with six locations, I had one team member who was dominating the Q & A portion of the training. For some reason, I had two high barstools at the front of the room where I was presenting, and I got an idea. I asked her to come and take the seat beside me to allow me to demonstrate in real time how to have the conversation she was concerned about. She called it the “hot seat,” but I dubbed it the “love seat.” And it was a hit!
As we wrapped her conversation, almost instantly more hands in the room went up for a chance to sit in the “love seat” and get coaching. It has become a cornerstone of my presentations ever since because, well, life is always working out for me.
Is your life always, ultimately, working out for you? If not, then how could you act “as if” it was? What might that create, attract, or open up for you? You’ll never know until you try. The alternative is living in a world where we either have zero control or life is always not working out for us. I chose the opposite and that perspective has seen me through some otherwise very tough times.
This week, consider framing whatever happens in terms of “how life is working out for you.” What is it teaching you? Showing you? Revealing to you? How is it blessing, growing, or transforming you?
Have fun out there this week, and let us know if you’d like to bring some “love seats” to your team in the near future! We can help you take the drama out of your team and put the positivity, teamwork, and results back in!
Winners make a habit of manufacturing their own positive expectations in advance of the event.
~ Brian Tracy