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The General’s Tent

Stephen Covey once said, “Wars are won in the general’s tent.” In other words, preplanning, deciding on priorities, and committing to action is the difference between random success and consistent success when it comes to your most important goals. If you’re like me, you do battle every day (all day!) with the “tyranny of the urgent” as emails, texts, messages, …

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The Story We Tell

If you’ve ever seen the movies Courage Under Fire or Snake Eyes, you know that a circumstance or event can look very definitive from one vantage point, causing us to come to a conclusion about which we feel very confident. But, viewing it from another angle can cause us to draw a completely different conclusion and, therefore, experience a new …

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Downfalls

John Gottman is widely considered to be one of the most influential psychologists of our time and is known for his research on what makes relationships (particularly marriage relationships) work. He is probably most famous for his newlywed study which led to his ability to predict divorce with 90% accuracy. I believe it doesn’t work much differently for professional relationships. …

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Finding Freedom in Your Boundaries

Setting boundaries for yourself with colleagues, family members, or friends can sometimes feel heavy, selfish, stressful, or even harsh; however, clarifying your boundaries first to yourself and then to others can actually relieve stress, lessen “overwhelm,” reduce drama, and keep you from feeling like you should be doing something you’re not. I once had a professional colleague who I helped …

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Triggers

A couple of weeks ago, someone said something to me offhandedly, and I felt an immediate internal reaction. It seemed to me that the person was accusing me of procrastinating, if not being downright lazy. I was offended. When I reacted, the person was genuinely surprised as that was not at all what they had meant. As a matter of …

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Imperfect Humans

As wise as I can make myself sound on these weekly Stretches by giving all kinds of sage advice, I can make the most bone-headed mistakes sometimes. This week, we had our annual LionSpeak Team Retreat. It’s been on our calendars for six months. Of course, this year it was destined to be virtual, and I was ready. I had a great agenda, …

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“The No Complaining Rule”

A friend once sent me a purple rubber bracelet imprinted with the words “NO Complaining” and invited me to join her in a 30-day, no-complaining contest. I must admit that as a motivational speaker and human potential trainer, I truly thought this was a ridiculously simple request in which I would clearly have the advantage! I mean wasn’t it true that I …

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If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

One of the best personal development books I’ve ever read was the simple yet powerful book, If Life is a Game, These are the Rules. In this book Cherie Carter-Scott who is an author, corporate trainer, and consultant outlines what she calls her “Ten Rules for Being Human,” and I found them not only poignant but also really helpful to read and …

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The High-Wire Act of Life

Years ago, I visited a rock-climbing gym in Sacramento with my good friend, Melinda Heryford-Elston. The gym provided belays (people who manage the climber’s rope on the ground) for children who climbed. While Melinda and I were getting in some cardio on the treadmills, we watched as one of the belays, who was taking a break between climbers, jumped up …

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Hot Tea and Full Cups

And just like that… it’s December. Hard to believe, isn’t it? Funny how time seemed to drag to a near stop before the holidays when we were children, and now it just seems to be an unstoppable train on a downhill track, picking up speed with every year that passes. One of my favorite wintertime pleasures is wrapping my hands …